Recently I have been asking women, “How are you using your power?” The responses have been varied to say the least, but unfortunately, some of our sisters don’t even realize they have power!
Each and every one of us has been given a specific designated amount of power. Now, I don’t necessarily mean from the perspective of He-Man or She-Ra, but power none the less. So let’s do a little time travel, shall we…
So this bit of pop culture goes back to standing in your truth. Think about it, He-Man or She-Ra would stand there, sword up and say, “I’ve got the power!” And the whole premise behind that, when declared, s/he would have power and it would give them spectacular might to be able to accomplish something great.
The interesting thing was it all began with a statement! It began with them decreeing and declaring, before all, to see– Ironically enough, they had to first believe it themselves, before they could decree and declare it to everybody around them. AND coupling that, with the belief, that the power would manifest in their life.
The same is true and granted to each of us, just like in this 1980’s cartoon! Talk about art imitating life…
Let’s go a bit deeper, as women we are already the softer gender. We are emotional beings. For example, personally, when I saw the new Budweiser commercial, featuring Dwayne Wade– I just melted. And this is a beer commercial! Nevertheless, being in corporate America or in business for yourself, or simply a leader, there are times to show emotion and there are times that you reserve that emotion.
The best thing is to not allow someone else to create a perception of you based on the way that you may have responded to an experience, comment, or interaction. Why do I drive this point home, unfortunately, there is a theory in business likeability vs competence. In short, it says, that women as leaders are seen as extremely competent or extremely likable, but they cannot be seen as both.
“The 2008 election highlighted a dilemma often faced by women in the professional world—a double bind between being perceived as competent or as likeable. Both qualities are imperative for success but the incongruity of normative female roles (warm, nurturing) with characteristics perceived necessary for professional success (independence, assertiveness) means that women are either seen as likeable, but incompetent, or as competent, but unlikeable.”
Expert from, LIKEABILITY V. COMPETENCE: THE IMPOSSIBLE CHOICE FACED BY FEMALE POLITICIANS, ATTENUATED BY LAWYERS
Some of you may have experienced this, but you have to always make the decision, to do what you can, to ensure this is the right decision for the organization or department or team that you are leading. To always decide to be true to yourself. Your power is just that!
You have to know by your own compass that regardless as to what someone else’s thought may be– positive or negative, it can not impact who you are and the decisions that you make. Your power is that as being the boss, especially if you’re in leadership. At the end of the day, it is all a choice. How will you use your power?
From process to practice, grab your stilettos and let’s go,